My Gay Best Friend - March

My Gay Best Friend

--- K.P. Lennox

Dear GBF,

So there’s this girl, she really doesn’t fit in, and though she tries, it just doesn’t work. For some reason she’s picked me to be her advocate, only I, like everyone else, can’t stand her! She’s just forceful, always into everyone’s business and inviting herself to group functions that honestly shouldn’t involve her at all. She’s like a square trying to push her way into all us circles, and her corners are really starting to chafe. Please help!!!

---Need to Come 'Round Soon

Alright, so this chick is crampin’ your style. AWW. As your GBF I only know your side of the story. With that said, it’s only right to give this person the benefit of the doubt. This sounds like a rare level of matured social awkwardness. From what you've described, this girl has lived her entire life not being able to interact with others in a relatively normal manner. So what do you do?

She’s already tried to force her way into your social circle. Give her an inch, but make sure it doesn’t turn into a mile! Show her that you too can be a little bit more accepting than a majority of the people she has encountered. Think about what it must be like to live in her shoes? Trust me—as one who was painfully awkward—that it isn’t easy.

You should feel special that she chose you! It amplifies the acceptance that you portray. And frankly, if she’s as bad as you say, it also shows how much patience you’ve got.

Let her enjoy the company on a little lunch date with you and your friends. Lead her by example and gently nudge her toward a bit better behavior. 

Make your circle a little bit bigger and see if you can’t soften her sharp edges.

---GBF

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